Missing Home…

I’ve been back from India for 4 days now and it already feels like too long. The title of this blog sums it up for me, I am missing home. Chennai became my home during my time there and I’m missing everything about it: the weather, the food and the people that became my family. Its hard to comtemplate not going back on team next year because of how much I will miss Chennai, but I know deep down that I can’t keep returning because I need to find new and different challenges in my life and in my faith.

I really hope that Team B are having an amazing time and that they are enjoying experiences that will become life-long lasting memories. Chennai Challenge is an experience I will treasure for the rest of my life and I’m glad I have had the opportunity to enjoy it.

I can’t really add to what Emma and Nick said about our last couple of days in Chennai so read their blogs if you want the info. Keep reading the blogs and keep supporting Team B with your thoughts and prayers… I know I will be. :) Barney Bundles is missing you lots Team B, keep it up… :)

Birthday on the first day of Lent….

Ok, so I know it’s only 24 hours since my last post, but this is too good a blog opportunity.  That’s right. It’s my birthday today.  But it is also the first day of lent.  Does one sense a difficult problem? Can I eat any chocolate today? Can I have a drink? I ate pancakes last night (and although we were extravagant, we didn’t finish off the luxury items in the cupboards!) so have I committed to giving up life’s indulgences even if it’s my birthday? I hope not because I think I’m going out tonight!

So, what exactly is lent?  Well, the source of all knowledge on the internet, Wikipedia has this to say:

Lent in the Christian tradition, is the period of the liturgical year leading up to Easter. Lent is a time of sacrifice for Jesus. The traditional purpose of Lent is the preparation of the believer — through prayer, repentance, almsgiving and self-denial — for the annual commemoration during Holy Week of the Death and Resurrection of Jesus, which recalls the events linked to the Passion of Christ and culminates in Easter, the celebration of the Resurrection of Jesus Christ.

All seems a little ‘high church’ to me.  I was not brought up in a household that put a huge emphasis on the traditions of lent.  I mean, we had pancakes on Shrove Tuesday, and I was aware of it I suppose, but we didn’t observe it with fasting.  In fact I don’t really remember giving anything up at all.  In modern culture (let alone Christian culture) it seems to have become a time to give things up or deprive yourself of chocolate/coffee/biscuits/anything nice, regardless of what you believe about JC.

I’m not so sure about that.  Obviously it is a time to remember the 40 days that Jesus spent in the desert immediately following his baptism.  His baptism at which he heard the voice of the Father say ‘This is my son, in him I am well pleased’, and the Spirit of God came to him.  What were these 40 days about?  Well I think they must have been preparation, like Mr Wikipedia says.  God knew the battle ahead.  He knew the devestation that he would have to face as Christ.  And he knew the incredible strength of Spirit that was required in Jesus to carry out his 3 years of ministry in the way he did.  In the way that (regardless of what you believe about who he was) meant it got remembered for over 2000 years.  But I don’t think the 40 days in the desert were really about deprivation.  I think they were about preparation.

So no, I am not going to give up chocolate.  Or coffee.  Or anything for that matter.  And with that the dilemma of my birthday being the first day of lent is dissolved.  In fact I recently discovered Stewardship’s latest campaign – 40acts.  The premise is that instead of giving something up, we should spend the time giving something out.  I’m not sure it’s what I think Lent is about, but I do think there can’t be much bad about developing a ‘habit of generous living’ as they say.

For a start I have decided not to ask for gifts (although most of my family seem to insist on giving me ‘something to unwrap’!) but instead ask for musical suggestions.  What’s your favourite album? List it on the comments below, or better yet donate the cost of the album to Chennai Challenge here, naming your choice in your comment.

So, whether you make use of Lent by preparing for something (maybe this is August Chennai Challenge team!) or by giving out and developing a habit of generous living, I don’t think we should focus on giving things up or depriving ourselves. I believe in a God that loves us, a God that wants us to be happy but prepared.  I think I’ll spend Lent coming to God every day and asking for him to prepare me.  For Chennai Challenge and this year’s project, and for the future and everything lying on the road ahead.

Eat, eat and eat again…

I write this blog in my bedroom in Peckham, for we have returned now to the UK and have almost finished Chennai Challenge 2010. I say almost because we will be meeting to debrief the team in a couple of weeks, summing up, evaluating and tying up loose ends of this years project. As well as setting 2011 in motion!

The last blog told of our Sunday, and that only leaves Monday to fill you in on. It was, as you can probably imagine, a busy day.

We decided that we should have breakfast out on this final day, and those of us who were feeling strong stomached ventured out to Doveton to sample traditional Masala Dosai, or Poori. For Emma, this meant her first Pista Milkshake of the trip. Let me tell you they are good.

After breakfast we had our daily team meeting in which we addressed the challenge of trying to understand a Christian perspective on Poverty and Giving. Mostly asking what exactly that means. A fasinating and thoughtful debate.

The next thing on Rob, Cathy and Isaac’s list was to try to get a meeting with Bernard Rajkumar. It was vital that we confirm final payments for projects, and give him the cash to complete works that we had already agreed to! Can you imagine if we had just left without paying? That would be rubbish. Unfortunately he is not the easiest man to get hold of, and there was much to-ing and fro-ing before eventually we were whisked away to Esplanade branch to meet with the General Secretary. It turned out that he was in court in the morning dealing with a difficult legal issue. We found out later in the day that the YMCA won the case. Which is excellent news. To have been told this information is a great encouragement to us, as it demonstrates once again the increasing level of trust and partnership between the YMCA and Chennai Challenge.

Well, we sat and ate more food in this meeting (samosa, and a very sweet sweet) whilst confirming that we would like to donate towards the high protein meal for the boys in the coming year once more. This means that each boy at Kottivakkam will receive 1 additional non-veg meal per week for the rest of the year! Excellent news that we had the money to pay this additional cost!

Bernard, Mr Williams (President of the YMCA) and Mr Jonathan Williams (Treasurer) were all present in the meeting. An excellent opportunity to thank them for their hospitality and generosity in welcoming us to Chennai and accomodating us for free!
From here, we had to immediately get back to YMCA Vepery, as we had a dinner appointment with Becky and the Oasis team booked in (that’s more food then). A buffet lunch at the swanky Marina Towers. It was quite special, especially the puddings! Again, this was a lovely opportunity to say goodbye and thank you to Oasis for allowing us to be involved in their incredible work. Becky at this point also gave us a copy of the letter about working with the YMCA in Egmore Community Centre and also at Kottivakkam that she had written to Bernard and the board. If this relationship blossoms as we hope it will, it will be a great success for Chennai Challenge, as it will show our ability to facilitate and mediate the partnering of NGO’s in Chennai.

From here then, most of the team went back to Vepery to finalise arrangements for our very special final night with the boys. An English Party! As for the leadership team, well having not had enough food today(!) we were then taken by Bernard to his home to see his wife Charlotte (and his daughter who had just flown in from America!), and to eat some afternoon snacks! By this point, we were all feeling rather stuffed with food, however, we felt that it was only right for us to eat at least something, as they had made this effort to welcome us at short notice! It was great to see Charlotte again, as it is 2 years since we have been able to see her.

So, back to the YMCA, where by this point the party had begun. That’s right, we had arranged for the boys to leave Kottivakkam and be brought to Vepery YMCA where the team had decorated the room in hom made bunting, UK flags, and had Western music playing! As we arrived it seemed that the team and the boys were having an amazing time. What an honour to give joy to these most incredible boys. We also bought in masses of Pizza for the boys to try some western food. More to eat for the leadership team!

As the evening drew to a close the boys wished to thank the team (including Team A) with some short messages in English. They also gave each of us a small gift bought with their own pocket money. And so, the time had come to say goodbye. This is probably the most difficult time of the project. For me, it was certainly extremely hard. Many of the boys that I have now known for 5 or 6 years are not going to be at the Boys Town when I next visit. Particularly a young boy called Vignesh. He was very distressed, making it even more difficult to say goodbye for what is probably the last time. We hope though, that this time is a time that they will always remember. That it is a time that they will look back on with great fondness. It certainly is for us. In spite of the work that we donated money towards, I think that it is these relationships that are the most important part of what we do. By going out to Chennai and spending time with the boys, we are showing them how worth it they are. They live in a world that tells them they’re not important. Hopefully what we do counters that.

And so, we packed and went to bed for a couple of hours before beginning the long and arduous journey back to England. A delayed plane, and sickness from many team members made this an uncomfortable affair, but we made it. All reports are that people are recovering. The adjustment of arriving back in the UK is tricky, so if you are welcoming the team back, please bear this in mind.

Thank you for following this years blog. Do keep looking as well, as we will be blogging more regularly throughout the year on what we’re doing. The end of one year means the beginning of the next, and applications for 2011 have already started arriving!

With love and thanks from Chennai Challenge Team 2010.