Discos – love or hate?

discoDiscos are like Marmite, you either love them or hate them. Growing up, I always hated attending parties as it was customary to dance and anyone who knows me knows I don’t like dancing.  Yet surprisingly I am now the one up leading the dancing at every school disco we have! Unfortunately I have also been to many parties where the DJ has a playlist of awful songs that no one ever gets up to dance to.

However about three years ago I became an amateur Charity DJ playing at a range of parties and events including anniversaries, decade themed nights and birthday parties. Since then I have become more aware of the top tracks that get people up and dancing.

There are two types of music that people dance to, traditional ‘disco fever’ tracks and action disco dances (probably because there are set actions where you don’t have to worry about looking like a fool!) Below are my top 10 disco dances and top 10 disco songs which are guaranteed to get your party goers up and dancing.

What are your favourite disco songs which get you up and dancing?

Comment below for them to feature in the Disco top 10.

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TOP 10 DISCO SONGS

1 I will survive Gloria Gaynor
2 Le Freak Chic
3 Staying Alive Bee Gees
4 Disco Inferno Trammps
5 Don’t Blame it on the Sunshine Jackson 5
6 Hot Stuff Donna Summer
7 Play That Funky Music Wild Cherry
8 Dancing Queen ABBA
9 Celebration Kool and the Gang
10 Lady Marmalade Christina Aguilera, Pink, Mya, Lil’ Kim
1 Macarena Los del Rio
2 Cha Cha Slide DJ Casper
3 YMCA The Village People
4 Oops upside  your head The Gap Band
5 5,6,7,8 Steps
6 Saturday Night Whigfield
7 Cotton Eyed Joe Rednex
8 Superman Black Lace
9 Reach S Club 7
10 Gangnam Style PSY

Resolutions, baby food and giving

I don’t know about you but I find it very difficult to stick to my resolution to lose weight.  I’m sure that I make a similar resolution every year and somehow (mainly through food!) I never manage it.  I always end up at around about the same weight regardless of how much I eat or exercise, I even didn’t gain or lose any weight by being pregnant and giving birth, I feel that I am in the eternal struggle of the weight loss cycle.

But food has got me thinking.  Malachi is nearing the age when he can start to eat proper food and I’m not sure about what to do.  I wanRiverford_mini_vegboxt to make sure that he has good food with no nasties in, so whilst I was pregnant I reinstated our fruit and veg delivery from Riverford.  Each week I get a delivery of good organic, pesticide free fruit and vegetables and they are brilliant, even if I do have to think creatively about how I use them (fussy husband!).  I have for a number of years only had free range meat, which tends to be more organic, but now I also get my meat through Riverford too, ensuring that the meat I eat is also organic.

So I am stocked with good food, but what do I give him to eat.  He is five and a half months old and many other parents I know have or had already started weaning by this age, but we are trying to wait until he is six months because of the Department for Health guidelines, which were based on recommendations by UNICEF and the World Health Organisation from research they had done with babies from all over the world.  Before a baby is six months old, their digestive systems and kidneys are not mature enough to process the food and so it can lead to an increased risk of infections and the possibility of developing allergies.  So in my head it seems like a good idea to wait.  Not only that, but weaning information states that if you start earlier than six months, there are certain foods that you mustn’t give your baby, like wheat, meat and anything made with cow’s milk; so again, why not wait until they are old enough to have a mixed variety of foods.

So we are going to go with baby led weaning, where essentially you give them what you are having to eat, in chunks that they can pick up, hold, chew and munch.  This is great for finger foods and my research has told me that cucumber, apples and pears are good to eat raw and carrots, sweet potato and parsnip are good to eat lightly steamed.  But to be honest, we don’t normally these things just lightly steamed.  In fact we tend to use these veg in stews, soups and of course curries.  So I had to find out if it were possible to give him these things too…and it is!!  It sort of stands to reason that Malachi should like spicy food, since when I was pregnant and breastfeeding I didn’t stop eating these things.  So when we start giving him food, we are most certainly going to give him curry, we may not get the jalfrezi or madras out just yet, but we hope that the milder curries like a korma should be just fine.

I know that I am in a privileged position that I am able to choose these good things for my child and other parents do not always have the same options available to them.  The Oxfam tv advert has recently made an impact on me, you can watch it here: Jodie’s Film It’s the film where twins are being given flour and water at one month old because their mother doesn’t have enough milk to feed them properly.  It makes me  sad that the guidelines from the World Health Organisation are not being able to be followed because of poverty.  2004 (32)

I have been visiting Chennai for the last 12 years, I have seen first hand what a difference clean water and good food can give.  One of my memories from an early trip was visiting the boys town before they got up for the day, seeing their morning routine.  Part of this was them having breakfast, which that day was a kind of rice porridge, made in a huge pan.  It looked awful, like what the gruel looked like in the film Oliver, in fact it made me think very much of Oliver, and his question ‘Please Sir, can I have some more?’.  That was a defining moment for me and I decided that I wanted to make a difference to the lives of these children.  Since then I have seen changes to give them a better diet, clean water and better living conditions.

So it really can make a difference just a few pounds a month to the lives of people who don’t have the same choices as us.  Please make a choice to help them and visit Oxfam to donate to them or help us at Chennai Challenge

6 Projects and counting…

Every year when we visit Chennai we challenge our team to think about what the new things that they have experienced. Whilst in India over August 2012 we even had a “first times” board on the wall in our meeting room. As people did something for the first time they wrote it up on the wall so that we had a list of first time experiences as long as your arm at the end of the project.

As a project leader I have now been to India with Chennai Challenge 6 times. In total I have visited Chennai 9 times. One would maybe think that my contribution to the first time board was therefore lacking. I can tell you this is far from true.

One of the amazing things about visiting India with Chennai Challenge has been the vast number of new experiences that I have had. Yes, we do a lot of the same things year on year. Every year since 2008 we have visited Yellagiri campsite and run an activity holiday. Every year we have gone to the Independence Day celebrations run by the YMCA around the city. Every year we eat at many of the same restaurants. And yet, every year I find myself amazed by the number of new things I have done and by how different each project is from the year before.

But what really makes each project special and different is the people we take on team. It is a wonderful privilege, and one of my favourite things about being project leader to be able to take people out to Chennai. People who have never been before. One of my most vivid memories of India was when I first walked up Purasavalkam High Road. This road is the route to many of the restaurants that we eat in and is the main road in the area that we stay in. I remember it’s dustiness. I remember the old man with leprosy sitting on the corner of the street. I remember the sounds of honking horns of autorickshaws and motorbikes. I remember the smells of petrol, rotten food and spices from freshly cooked food. I remember the sense of feeling comfortable in spite of how alien it all was.

I can never have that experience again. Not for the first time. But what I have had the honour of doing in the last 6 years is taking new people up that road for breakfast. Every year is a slightly different team, and therein lies the real first time for me each year. I so enjoy watching people react for the first time to the city I love. When we get to move on to visiting Oasis football projects; Blue Edge English Lessons; and of course the YMCA Boy’s Town it becomes even more special.

Each project we run is so enormously different because each team we take is made up of different constituents. Of course, this does mean that when we come home each year we know that that project will never happen again. That combination of personalities and relationships will never be repeated. It can be sad, but mostly I find it exciting. Our shared experience will remain in our memories, and next year perhaps we can share another experience. A new one, with new relationships and new memories.

This goes for the relationships out in India as well. The people who access Oasis’s services and who live at the Boy’s Town. The workers at both charities. Sometimes we get to see old friends, and sometimes they have moved on. The building of new relationships is at the centre of what we do and what we believe, and it is one of the things that makes Chennai Challenge so special.

So thank you to everyone who has ever come on a project with us. You are one of the major reasons that I love this charity. Anyone want to come again?

Order, order

I do like to be organised. Not that I always am, but it always helps to have a system. The lovely feeling of having things in order, under control and organised is great. I don’t think that I am alone in liking a nice, ordered way of things, the  Dewey decimal system helps with organising non-fiction books, each week there is the Top 40 to let us know which singles have sold best, there are rules for driving so we know that people on the left have priority at roundabouts, league tables tell us which sports teams are best, and very little about how good a school is. We like order. We like control.

Can we always have order though? Or are we always going to have systems that will let us down Are we going to have to accept that we are not in full control. One story about control is that of King Canute

The story is that Canute ordered his chair to be taken to the beach, sat there and ordered the waves not to break on the shore. Which of course they did, and he ended up with wet feet. There is a bit of debate about whether he was trying to prove he could command the sea to do his bidding, or whether he was deliberately showing that he could not. Whatever his motivation, he showed that there are some things that you cannot control.

So what do we do when we have so many things that are out of our control? We can’t stop the tide from coming in, so where does this leave us? This brings me to another beach side story, a story is of starfish, adapted from Star Thrower by Loren C. Eiseley.

A young girl was walking along a beach upon which thousands of starfish had been washed up during a terrible storm. When she came to each starfish, she would pick it up, and throw it back into the ocean. People watched her with amusement.

She had been doing this for some time when a man approached her and said, “Little girl, why are you doing this? Look at this beach! You can’t save all these starfish. You can’t begin to make a difference!”
The girl seemed crushed, suddenly deflated. But after a few moments, she bent down, picked up another starfish, and hurled it as far as she could into the ocean. Then she looked up at the man and replied,
“Well, I made a difference to that one!”
We may not be able to control the tide, but we can try and help those it affects, just like the girl throwing starfish back in the sea. She could not stop them from being washed up, but could help at least some of them.
We cannot stop all poverty and suffering on our own. However, we can make a difference to someone. Chennai Challenge aims to alleviate poverty in Chennai, reaching out to some of the most disadvantaged. We may not help everyone, but we can make a difference to those we do help. You can help us make a difference. You can make a difference. We may not have the ability to control the tides, but we can help at leastone starfish.

Aside

So, it’s 2013.

And last year I went to India. Last year. LAST YEAR.

Sounds weird doesn’t it?

And yet soon, the holidays will end, we’ll all get back to our normal everyday lives and forget the amazing things that can happen.

But I want you to remember, that even though we’re “normal” *cough*, you and I are capable of doing amazing things for amazing people.

I hope you all had a good Christmas and a happy new year!

:)

Megan xx